Had a bad past? Faced too many problems in life? Had serious mood swings? Handled yourself with courage? That is appreciable. I appreciate you to face such situations and come out of them. That needs courage and you are brave. congratulations.
But, are you not able to trust people easily? Happens when we have seen too much. We see everything with a different perception. We become careful with people and situations. We feel like things cannot be happy again. We have problems in accepting normal things. And after a bad relationship? We normally stay away from opposite sex because we think people are fake. We don’t want same bad situations again.
I know relationship is a healthy word. But it is attached to too much boundations and restrictions which makes commitment or the strings attached between two people heavy. You feel attracted, confess the feelings, talk daily, feel loved and happy. You are on the top of the world. Some days same scenario is followed. You get full attention, day in day out. You share things. But then reality hits you. SLAP. You go busy and can’t give time. Have busy schedule and because of tiredness pay less attention. Love decreases and so talks. Once you felt attended was nowhere. You fight because that is how relationship is? You committed but not giving your 100%. So many things happen and then adjustments and compromises dominate rather than love and happiness.
Knowing the reality of relationship lifecycle, you should focus on happiness rather than expectations and commitments. You know how relationships work and then you keep distance from it to prevent yourself from hurting. But dear, you cannot restrict yourself because of the fear of pain. I did take a step forward and I am happy. As I took risk you should also. See what life has got for you. If you are afraid of relationship then don’t be in it, spend time and get the happiness you deserve. Do what you like, but when opportunity comes, make sure you don’t spoil it with your own hands. You are not alone, there are many people like you to accept you as you are.
Take risks. Take a step ahead. Maybe that’s and opportunity for you.
When life gives you invitation to come out of pain and be happy, don’t waste it because of your bad past or insecurities about future. Be careful with your risks, but don’t give up for them. You never know that can shine your life. Don’t loose hopes. Give yourself a second chance. ❤