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You can see that big and carefree smile of these kids. Remind you of your childhood? You miss your childhood? Yeah I also do. Because it was time we had to just play and learn from surroundings. We had no stress, no responsibilities and no race where we need to prove our self.

You must all be struggling for job or studies or maybe to prove yourself in your field. Some of you might be at a good position but still you are not that happy as you were in childhood. Somewhere we all are working for our dreams or a better life. Some with more dedication, some with fast pace, some with slow pace, some with hard work, some with smart work. We all are doing our part. Even I am. But then sometimes it’s not enough, we need to do more. More and more each day.

What we lack is motivation. Yeah when someone gives us a lecture to work hard and motivates us we are motivated and there work is done. But then we could not stand by it for long. We need more motivation after regular intervals. But then why? Can’t we motivate ourself for the thing which will happen for our benefit only. Stay motivated guys. There are many motivating videos on youtube or read good blogs. People will help you, it’s you who need to keep your distractions and laziness aside to prove people who invoke you or fulfill the needs of your wishes.

Another thing what is a big challenge for us teenagers is that we are involved in lot of emotional ups and downs which is a big distraction. I agree emotional attachments are important and Even I am the person who is attached to so many people who are very important to me. But if those attachments start giving you pain or negativity and keep holding you then you have to take a step for yourself or the person who matter to you. Either leave the attachment or prepare yourself to not let the negativity to destroy you.

I see people having emotional swings, feelingless days and many complex behavior. They teach us a lot but we have to keep a check on them so that they don’t have a bad impact on our career or future. What would be life if you would stay feelingless for a long period like 5 years or full life?

Work on yourself. Take a stand for yourself and fight with negativity. Work hard for your dreams and happy life. Many books say

“There is nothing you can do if you make your mind and work hard in right direction”.

You might be thinking it is not related to the pic at all, but at this point what I ca see in the eyes of those kids are dreams as we had in our childhood. My family members always say “If you study hard then dear your 2 younger sisters will get inspired by you and they will also work for a good and somewhere I believe this is true because our surroundings matter. The difference between IIT, IIM and some private college is that all students in top colleges study hard and get inspired by peers. They have big dreams and work for them whereas in private colleges or not so good colleges you might most of the students don’t work hard, have no dreams and only want the degree. Surroundings matter. If we don’t give up on our dreams, if we don’t work hard to contribute in growth of our country these kids will loose their carefree smile when they come in teenage. If we inspire them, they will also keep on having the happiness inside them.

Moreover if we stand for ourself we will regain the same carefree happiness as we had in our childhood. Work hard, live for your dreams and keep yourself and thousands of happy directly or indirectly by creating a good life for yourself and others.

Daily Prompt: Gone for good!


Gone? What’s the first thing that comes in my mind after reading this word? 2016.. Yeah 2016 to be serious. 2016 is gone and I miss it a lot.

You know for me 2016 was a Survivor year. It gave me every happiness and then took it and finally taught me how to balance my life between expectations and reality, between being emotional and practical, between heart and mind.

In the starting few months it gave me the biggest problem of my life, thinking of that shakes me out of fear even now. I get thoughts about it every night before sleeping and I face it. Yeah I am a fighter. It scares the hell out of me, I shiver out of fear and then I calm myself down. Not for one day but daily. And I will not let myself be broken by that fear.

Valentines day, 14 February was one of my favorite memory of 2016. I had a long chat with someone I love and he proved my beliefs about him true. Situations wanted me to let him go away but I never gave up on him. So, that was the day my heart won with its love.

In the middle of the year, I was lucky enough to experience a trip in foreign land with my family. That was lovely. Traveling is always fun and when you get peace in your vacations, it is always cherry on the cake. I wasn’t that excited to go. But when I reached Singapore, the city made me fall in love with it. After going I was so excited that I felt bad for leaving the city. Plus it was my birthday trip, have not got such a wonderful gift in life.

It was year of friendships, relations actually a mirror for them. It showed me who is worth to be cared for and to spent my time on. There come many type of people in our lives some stay for small period, some for longer and some forever. 2016 taught me how to differentiate among types of people and deal with their period of time. Yeah I lost some people, Some people lost me. It’s a balance, Not all people are meant to stay. And when you don’t know how to handle friendships ? Learn it, or time will teach as 2016 did to me.

It was whole year of experiments I loved. I turned my friends, by friends I mean close friends including my best friend, my enemies. I left them saying blah blah blah, fighting with them and so on. All fake. Circumstances made me do that. And then after some months I got them back. Yeah because some friends are true friends no matter how you show from outside, they know your true feelings.

Did I mention about mood swings of 2016? Oh! I had never seen such swings in my mood whole life. Have you ever felt numb? Have you ever felt that someone is using a pin in your body but still you didn’t feel that pain? Yeah I experienced it.

I don’t know why? I was doing all fine, actually just living my life and then Tragic turn came. So much feelings to feel and now I can see what I could not at that time. I really thought I was fine, but I was struggling to get a better future. I was struggling to get a living from my present.

 

I felt that I am fine but then I would think what is so good about my life that I am fine? I spent months hanging between fine and not fine. And then came a turn, I stopped caring about anything, means anything in life. Nothing mattered much. Okay someone abused me? Its okay. Someone hurted me? I thought for 5 minutes about it and then I am okay. I failed? Fine, I will give the retest. My friend cheated me? Fine there is nothing that can be done. My ex whom I still love have a new girl friend? Oh that too fine, because I can’t do anything in that.

I kept on analyzing my situations throughout the year. I shared this situation with one of my friend and he replied “You are preparing for a better version of yourself. Have patience and enjoy the transformation.” And now I understand his words. I really was getting better each day. And I am better today.

There was a time I cried myself to sleep almost daily and not knowing the reason. I mean how can someone cry without any reason? That is a tough situation. Sometimes I could see myself getting upset for silly reasons, I should say very sad, like too much. Sometimes I would get irritated and angry on my friends without their fault. And sometimes I speak “So what?”, “That’s your problem” and “I don’t care” when they share about their problems. I mean how does it feel to hear when you are already stressed?

I hurted people and got hurted too. Its okay. They never knew about the hurricane of feelings inside me. Soon they forgot what I did and were happy in there life, as if it hardly mattered. Then came the time I felt nothing again yes again after feeling care for people and then hurting them because I felt I don’t exist in their life as they exist in mine. I felt that my absence won’t matter to them, even if my presence did.So I chose to leave them.

Ya I didn’t soon I went to again in the Not feeling phase for 2-3 months and this time I was pretty cool with it because I had experienced it earlier. Ya I noted every feeling, every part well in my diary (P.S. I am a regular diary writer). And then First feeling I felt is happiness. Yeah I felt happy seeing how much my brother loves and cares for me, I felt happy dancing with friends, I felt happy enjoying festival with my family, I felt happy when I started learning to make android applications, I felt happy when I should. I went to a family wedding and there I had an awesome time. I had my happiness at peak. Then came anger. Yeah the second feeling. I got angry on my brother to say that he want to listen my every feeling when he wasn’t ready. I was angry on him to not being there when I needed him. I was angry on my friends for treating me granted. And that anger brought my all feelings back.

Yupiiee! I survived that phase. ❤ I got my feelings back because I already learnt what I was supposed to learn. I did pass. And in the end of 2016, I confronted with my love, which was one sided. I thought to propose him and listen his NO directly. So that I don’t live in any false hopes and destroy myself again. I got the NO and I moved on. Yeah I was already on my moving on phase from those months of my mood swings. I realized that I have to accept the situation, so it was easy.

And here I am with all my feelings, a better version of myself, writing this post with a happy smile on my face. Yeah I am happy, real one. Because I learnt how to live a life with small moments and make a better future.

I miss 2016. But sometimes Its better to let go. 2016 was meant to go as I already learnt my lessons, its work is over.

Yeah I can proudly say 2016 is GONE with older version of me. GONE FOR GOOD… 🙂

 

 

Daily Prompt: Fortune That Everyone has

Fortune which is known as luck, destiny is well known among people. You could always hear people using luck as a reason of their achievement or disappointment.

When someone crack an interview saying “Oh yeah! It was a lucky  day”.

When a child looses in a race, his friend saying “Its okay. Today was your bad luck. Better luck next time.”

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People in the morning read newspaper where fortune teller tells about how their day will go.

And Sometimes when something bad or good is going to happen…. people believe that this was written in their destiny.

You know What I being an optimist believe?

Fortune is the life we are living. Yeah we are fortunate enough to have a life where we can experience so much, feel so many feelings, listen to different voices, see the nature and everything in world, Smell. Even if any person don’t have these senses, He got his life to make it worth living.

I believe that Everything happens for a reason that is definitely GOOD. You can call it destiny or fortune. But even if things are looking bad to you… just wait, have patience to see that whatever happens for good for you.

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Be fortunate of your life, parents, family, friends and people. Express your gratitude and love towards them… And see the magic of happiness inside you and your life.

Yeah like Fortune cookies you are your destiny. It is a faith or hope of a better tomorrow. So keep your faith in destiny and smile each day for how much lucky you are of what you have! Else what you want you achieve it by hard work. and failure…. Don’t forget failure is first step of success.

So be happy.

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Everyone is Fortunate enough to have this life and this day. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

via Daily Prompt: Fortune

God- Answer to every question..!!

Did you ever found your brain struggling for the complicated questions of your life?? Spent days and nights finding their answers..!! Or just revolving around to find out what’s right and what’s wrong? You have no idea whom to consult for the correct solution when you crave it. Different humans have different perspectives which confuse us and there is only one who is always right- God!

 

God has all the answers of your questions. He’s the one who directs us to the right path. Yes it’s true he loves you conditionally. He is the supporter of truth. To live this life which is God gifted… One must trust God, love and serve him. He is the greatest power, he is the one who converts our sadness into happiness.

 

When you love him, trust him; you get an extra energy- Positivity!! He accepts you in the way you want I.e.  friend, parent, lover etc. He supports you, cares for you, love you when you feel alone.

 

When he is yours, he supports you at each step of life. When you feel stuck, he will show you the right path and help you in every possible way. You need to have a right attitude to follow him.

 

Love him because no one can love you like him. Trust him you won’t get better teacher then him.

Experienced… Try it..!! 🙂 🙂

The lesson for life

Before starting the blog i was really confused, and i have so many doubts in my mind, but then i learned a lesson for life. Now i do have a facebook page too.

I love to express my feelings by writing when i didnt get anyone around to share them. One more reason behind it is I love to read them again and again, that makes me feel good! And when my friends got time.. I shared them whatever i wrote..! They encouraged me to take an initiative to start writing on a regular basis… By starting a blog, or articles in magazine etc.

But before taking an initiative i had so many questions…
such as writing down feelings is easy, anyone in this world can do it..? There are many writers who write on similar topics as i do, then why should i? There as so many good writers then me..then why? I am not even professional, why would people love to read me?

As i was not confident about my writings then how can my readers will have interest?

I asked my friends these questions to clear my doubts and what i learnt is a lifetime lesson!

” Though everyone writes on the same topics, still every writer has their own different skills. What a writer writes easily describe himself, thats why as each and every person is different their writings have different touch. Ana what you write comes directly from your heart which makes them interesting. You write out of your experience which people can easily relate. If people think like you and wont take initiative for their talent, this world will loose such a talent. If you have many competitors this doesn’t mean you will quit. And if you are not professional then you can be.. by practising it, writing a lot! No one is born perfect. Go and explore your real self don’t stop it. Trying is better than failing. “

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This was the lesson i learnt and can be applied anywhere in life. You need to take an initiative and try it before quiting in the fear of failing. If you are ready to make efforts, you cannot fail. I am now confident about whatever i write because i know it is my talent which is my self and i am happy that i didn’t fear of failing and tried it.

as a famous quote says

” You will never fail until you decide to stop trying “mistakes-proof-of-trying

Loving YOURSELF! <3

For every person in this world they are the most important person of their life. But sometimes they forget their self in the busy world.

Today Technology has made our lives very easy. With the advancement in modern lifestyle people automatically adapted it. Now a days at one side people are too busy doing their work, making a way out for their success and on the other side people are spending too much time using advance technology such as facebook, watsapp or enjoying with their friends. They are enjoying their life or working for their future, which every1 must do.. But yet they are lost somewhere in their busy life or around a group of people.

Every human being should love himself as he is the most important for him. In the world a person face many negative and positive feelings, so he should be standing their with him during those phases.

Is it stupidity? It is obvious that a person is always there with him? Then what am i trying to say?

A person should be his own best friend, because there are alot of times in life that they feel alone. They feel that they are nowhere, lost in the complexity of life. No one is yours and you need love in those tough phases.

Human nature is complex. It needs alot of love, support and care to be happy. They like encouragement by others. But what if no one is there to fulfil your these desires? Do you think it is justified to go in a depression?

No. First of all loving ourself is the best thing we can do to us. Life is all ours, we cannot afford to depend on other people to love us or we cannot hurt us if no one loves us.

But how will we love us?

Its too easy to be your own best friend. Take time out for you, talk to yourself, share your feelings, take yourself out. We find it too complex to talk to ourself? We would look foolish!!!!!!

But yes we can write down our feelings as today technology generated a habbit of writing in us (through chats or emails).
Encourage yourself, motivate, award, show care. It might sound illogical but yes its true.

Human beings are for love. If people cant even love themselves, how will they love others? Its really earning a lot of happiness when you are your best friend. It is very essential to have a self analysis when you are busy and avoiding yourself.

TRY IT.. 🙂 🙂 🙂

“Loving others is a nice feeling but loving YOURSELF is awesome. “